How to get over your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend? : Going through a breakup is the most frustrating and devastating feeling and dealing with a break up seems to be harder. We end up suppressing all these emotions. You might think “No one understands me.” that’s why you say nothing at all. As we all know, relationships aren’t all the same. Sometimes a break up is mutual and couples simply have fallen out of love. on the other hand couples in other relationships actually, break up and dread the thought of getting back together. while other couples have had their hearts broken by their partner and the love they were giving isn’t the type of love they wanted to receive.
Putting ourselves first is the hardest thing to do especially when you feel alone and you think no one understands you. It’s hard to getting over someone and do anything productive during a breakup. And it’s extremely difficult to separate what you are doing from emotions. Your mind seems to be clouded but, you need to get out of that funk and ask yourself “what do I need right now?”.
Negative thoughts can cloud your head, like “I’m not worthy enough” or ” I’m not beautiful” or “I’m not smart”.These thoughts distract you from your life and you can’t focus on important things. You need to tell yourself this has to stop!
Steps to deal with break up:
This is what helped me personally and helped our clients, in only 8 tips you can feel happy again and ready to conquer the world.
1. Delete your Ex-Boyfriend’s phone number:
During this period you need to separate yourself from him. Never connect with him, even if you have to. Always remember that calling or texting your ex would give you a hard time and more stress on your shoulders. Just leave him alone, and get yourself busy.
2. Do things you love (hobbies):
Do things that you love doing during the day, if you have hobbies that you love to do, do it and never think you’re not capable. This will get you focusing on something that makes you smile and will surely help you get back on track.
This is an important factor, doing exercise releases all your stress and you feel more productive and, good about yourself. 20 mins three times a week will do the trick.
4. Get Active, meet new faces:
Meeting new faces will help you reach out to people that can support you, that are going through the same thing. This also, helps you overcome your stress and anxiety.
5. Take care of your body:
This also goes for your appearance, you need to take care of yourself, to feel good about yourself. Pampering, taking baths, getting your nails done. Helps you realize that you’re surviving without him and that you are beautiful and you deserve much more.
6. Communicate, talk to someone you love or know:
Always remember your not alone, what you’re going through is a phase. Therefore, feel what your feeling and pour your heart out to someone that will listen and help you. This will help you get support and guidance to cope with what you’re going through.
7. Stay Positive, remind yourself of all the great things you’ve done in life:
Write 10-100 positive things that happened to you or that you know about yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and keep telling yourself all things a positive thing. At the end of the day, you are beautiful.
8. Meditate or be more spiritual:
This will help you realize that you are not alone. Getting in touch with your spiritual side helps you become stronger and get through this difficult time.
Overall, going through these feelings takes the time to heal. But, always remember that someone else can treat you much better and that you deserve so much more. What’s important is you. Be spontaneous and experience new things that are good for your soul. Don’t isolate yourself! Get out of the house and meet new people. Crying is a form of therapy and during that process, you will get to know yourself a lot better. You need to feel independent and know that you are capable of doing anything, is the best thing for you right now. Always put a smile on your face and never let yourself down, you are a miracle.You are not losing anything, even if you try. Give yourself a break and relax and when you are ready to meet someone new, be cautious, ask a lot of questions and share your thoughts with your soon to be significant other just to be on the safe side. Know who you are and treat your body like a temple, accept yourself before you letting someone in your life again.